Friday, April 1, 2011

Finding Direction

Lately I have been struggling to find the balance in being a mom, wife, and entrepreneur.  Everyone is getting jipped by how scattered I have been lately…but most importantly I have been unhappy.  Things have got to change.   

I came across this quote the other day:

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase. 
Just take the first step.” 
– Martin Luther King, Jr.

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It seems to be fitting advice for me right now.  I feel as if I have so much I want to accomplish and I am getting pulled in so many directions and I feel so overwhelmed by it all and I don’t know where to start and how to focus.  I find myself falling prey of analysis paralysis trying to have the answer to it all and beating myself up because I don’t have the answers.  It is my analytical nature to be this way.  But I need to remind myself that I don’t need the answer to it all, I just need to have a direction to move in and the path will become apparent.  Some pieces of the puzzle will fit into place, some may need a little coaxing and others I may find do not fit at all….but I will never know unless I start.

But how do you start?  Do you take the path of least resistance, the path that is the most challenging, the one most exciting?  I have decided that my first step should be to start by removing things from my life that don’t make me happy and work on strengthening the things that do make me happy.  Sounds like time for a list…..   

3 comments:

Pamela Tate said...

This caught my eye today. Exactly how I have been feeling. I have been reflecting on these same issues and am trying to focus on those things that really matter to me and my family. I put in my resignation on Tuesday and am staying home until the girls go to Kindergarten-at least. Who knows after that. I am also a list maker and it doesn't always work to my advantage mentally, but as I embark on this new chapter I find myself making lists in my head about what I want to accomplish in the upcoming months. I wish I wouldn't, but I will have to put them down on paper, then obsess about them as time passes.

Good luck to you as you begin to remove those unhappy things from your life. Praying we both find peace and happiness!

Susan said...

WOW Pam....that is a big step. How are you feeling about that? It seems as if a lot of my mommy friends are struggling with this same issue, I am surprised! Must be the female version of a mid-life crisis.

Beth Millner said...

This happens to me sometimes and I call it choice fatigue. It can be hard to find a good balance. Sometimes it seems that the hard times help us understand the good times. ~Beth